First, they think I am there to be their own personal gopher. They like to send me to get them a drink or more tags.... Whatever is needed. I don't mind most the time but they have this new kid and just for example I will tell you what happened today. He told me to go get him a drink and that was fine because I was going in to get my own anyway. So, to keep the peace I got his too. When I came back to the load out I put his drink on the metal table we all use for everything. He then told me ..."RJ, you need to bring that over here." No Thank you or anything and no he wasn't nice about it. Again I did it just to keep the peace.
Then later in the morning the tag box got knocked over and guess who they barked at to get them all sorted and back in order? Again, no thank you or appreciation. No, that isn't my job either and Mom told me that at some point I will have to demand respect from these boys or they will continue to walk all over me. The problem is that I can't think of anything to say when they start in on me. They are older and bigger then I am so I know I will have to out think them. Some times I do smart off back at them but it comes out sounding like a kid and doesn't really make them stop being rude or mean.
Mom told me I need to start using a catch word that can give me time to think of something to say that demands respect. Mom told me that is why she always says "Excuse me?" when someone isn't showing respect to her. She says it gives her brain time to think. Then she can say something to put them in their place without it sounding like a smart remark. She says it is the key to demanding respect. Mom says that every living thing should be shown respect just because it is a living thing. She also says these boys aren't doing that and they should be.
I told Mom about the time I tried to make the boy use the word please. He told me to get in one of the pens and grab a certain goat. I told him to say please. He just repeated his demand with no respect or please. This happened like three times and I finally told him to say please or do it himself and I went to walk away. He said Please but not very nicely and I did as I was asked. Mom told me to remind him once and then walk away if things don't change. I asked Mom why she didn't say something to these boys. I sure would have loved to see them talk like that to her. She told me that she thought about it but that there are some things in life that young men have to learn for themselves and learning to demand respect as a human being was one of those things.
You know, if I have learned one thing since starting this blog, it is to not be scared to ask questions here. Well, now that you all know what is going on what advice do you have for me? How do I demand respect of these boys without being mean and making it worse? Would it really make my life any easier if I did confront them? Isn't it just easier to hold my tongue and just put up with it? It does ruin my day but isn't that better then having an even harder day if I make them mad???